Breaking Chains: Letting Go Of Toxic Relationships

Breaking Chains: Letting Go Of Toxic Relationships

Toxic relationships can drive you to your breaking point. These may be difficult to get out of, and you may not even realize things are bad until you’re in deep. Today we’ll look at healthy versus toxic relationships and how to break those chains.


Identifying a Toxic Relationship

 The first step in breaking free from your chains is identifying when the chains are there. All relationships go through bad times. The difference is that toxic relationships seem to be perpetually stuck in a dark place. This is true for any type of relationship, not just romantic.

 Signs of a healthy relationship include: 

  • Respect
  • Trust
  • Good communication
  • Mutual commitment
  • Kindness
  • Fun
  • Comfort
  • Support of each other’s goals
  • Partnership in decisions

On the other hand, signs of a toxic relationship include: 

  • Disrespect
  • Lack of trust
  • Dishonesty
  • Poor communication
  • Major difference in goals
  • Lack of support
  • Stress
  • Jealousy
  • Excessive control
  • Disregard of each other’s needs and wants

Maintaining Safety

 Depending on the level of toxicity, breaking the relationship off could have safety concerns. This mainly refers to partners in romantic relationships but not always. In these cases, it could be a good idea to consult with local law enforcement or the National Domestic Violence Hotline before taking any action. To reach the hotline, you can either call 800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788. More information is available on their website.


Keys to Success

 There are a few main components that ensure success when breaking off a toxic relationship. They include:


  • Support System: Keep your loved ones in the loop about what’s going on with you. Let them know why you’re leaving the relationship and seek assistance from them if needed. Community support groups are also available if you need to talk with people who are going through the same thing.


  • Independence: Learn how to take care of yourself and complete daily tasks. This includes managing your basic needs, finances, recreation, and other errands.


  • Professional Assistance: Again, law enforcement and other measures may be necessary to maintain physical safety. From a mental health standpoint, you may also want to seek professional counseling before and after ending the relationship.


  • Cutting Ties: One of the worst things you can do when leaving a toxic relationship is leaving the door open for the other person to come back into your life. It will be difficult to step away but it’s necessary for long-term healing. Once you no longer share material possessions and communication is not essential, delete their contact information and take them off your social media. Do not indulge in conversations about them with friends, family, or mutual connections.


  • Self-Care: Engage in activities that bring you physical, mental, and emotional comfort and peace. Take care of your basic needs, live a healthy lifestyle, and participate in relaxing and recreational activities.


What To Say

 What you say and how you say it during a breakup is critical to your success in walking away. Here are a few tips for breaking the chain of a toxic relationship:


  • Maintain a strong and assertive but non-aggressive tone of voice.


  • Use strong body language, including a tall stance, relaxed shoulders, and good eye contact.


  • Use “I” statements and accept that the other person may not take responsibility for their actions.


  • Use definitive language. For example, don’t say “I need a break”. Instead, say “I’m leaving you and I don’t want you in my life anymore”.


Healing From Toxic Relationships

 It’s best to take a holistic approach to healing from a toxic relationship. This means focusing on every aspect of your wellbeing, not just your emotional health. Some of these aspects include:


  • Physical: This involves factors such as diet, sleep, exercise, and personal hygiene.


  • Mental: This involves using coping skills and/or professional help to deal with unwanted thoughts and emotions.


  • Social: This involves your social connections such as family, friends, work, hobbies, and other social obligations.


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